Hmmm… Sure, we could go through this suffering, but we would choose this self abuse for what reason?
When we self inflict our suffering then blame others for it, preferring being a victim (choice).
When we’re judging the other (choice).
When we perceive that they hurt us rather than us hurting ourselves in response to them (conveniently side stepping self responsibility).
When we overlook their gift to us in showing us what and where we need to heal (denial/blindspot/running away from ourselves).
When we think they’ve done the wrong thing (they may not have, it might be a misunderstanding or our projection).
When we choose isolation and separation, when we shut down (when we’d rather be right than happy, or hand over to our wounded inner child).
When someone wants us to suffer and would enjoy knowing that we’ve kept our suffering going by holding on to unforgiveness (we would choose to give them that power over us?)
When we’re in resistance of life and of others being who and how they are (bring on more suffering).
When we’re not seeing the big picture where it could be the best thing that ever happened to us (and when we look back on it, we may be surprised to discover what was right about it. What if it was a catalyst to wake us up or change our path to a greater one?)
We can make the choice to walk away from something (whether completely justified or not), but unless we let go of the story, we’re still choosing it. The ultimate act of love, compassion and emancipation is to feel love and appreciation for all involved (including self), embrace the isness, be in the question, resolve and dissolve what we can, and walk into our future without dragging the story along with us.
Just sayin’ …
© Maia Kshemya 2016